Rabbi Zecharia Wallerstein
The Candle and Kayak
It was the long-anticipated ninetieth birthday of the king. As the beloved leader of a large country, he decided to invite every citizen from near and far to participate in the festive and elaborate celebration. As news spread about the great festivity, men, women and children lined up outside the king’s ornate ballroom, their excitement peeked and curiosity sparked at the grand time they were about to have. One by one, they entered inside and took a seat at the elegantly arranged table. What most acutely attracted all eyes, though, was the magnificent chandelier overhanging above, which cast a shine to all corners of the room.
Before each guest stepped foot inside the majestic ballroom, however, they were handed a candle and a box of matches. It appeared to be a souvenir in gratitude of attendance, but it meant little to nearly everyone. Why would a little candle and matchbox be of use inside a brightly lit room? And if it were meant to be a take-home gift, why was it given at the beginning of the event and not the end? Word circulated about the candle and matches, though rather quickly died down after no rhyme or reason could be attributed to them.
As all the guests piled into the room and oriented themselves, soft, harmonious music played in the background. It was a delightful scene, full of men and women and children in between, all shining with happy faces. Chit-chat continued being heard around until…the chandelier lights went out and the room turned pitch black. Smiles turned into frowns and elated cheering accompanied by toasts turned into jarring distress. Chaos broke loose, with everyone turning to each other for instructions as what to do. But then, all of a sudden, a booming voice was heard. It was the king. The room quickly fell into a hush.
“There is no need to panic,” the king said softly and comfortingly. “Take the candle out of your pocket, strike the match, and light the candle.” Amidst the pandemonium, just about everyone had forgotten about what was in their pocket. Moments later, the whole room was filled with light, even more than had been provided before by the chandelier.
With no more darkness in the room, the king continued, “One day, I am no longer go to be here. My time will come to leave this world and pass on. When that happens, though, the worst reaction this country can have will be to become panicked and frightened. Instead, each and every one of you must personally contribute to the prosperity of us all. Each of you ought to light your own candle, which will cast away the darkness. The chandelier will have gone out, but your candle will take its place, and in fact provide even more light and benefit to yourselves, your families and your country.”
As we find ourselves today amidst the exile and at the footsteps of another Tisha B’av, we must remember that even though the chandelier is out and we grope in great darkness, if everyone of us would just light our own candle, we would together cast away the night of exile and usher in the morning of redemption. Our collective light and strength which forms from our individual candles possesses all the potential we need.
But, to continue with the analogy, what is the match from which we can light our own candle? What is it which will enable us to help bring the redemption that much closer?
For one man, a unique relationship was shared with each of his three children. With the eldest, he had little to do. Little communication existed and not much was done to bridge the gap. The middle son shared a closer relationship with his father, though mediocre at most. The youngest son, though, was very close to his father and took extraordinary care of him.
Living life on an island for the father and his children had always gone well. Except now, as the father was getting on in years, he advised his children to head to the mainland where he had stored away a treasure trove. “The child who gets there first,” he told them, “will be the one to keep all that it contains.” Calling over his eldest son, he placed his hand on his shoulder and said, “Son, I prepared a boat for you to get to the mainland. If you arrive there first, you will be entitled to all of my treasures.”
The son was delightedly surprised, only wondering what type of boat his father had prepared for him. “I have never been good to my father. I wish I would have…” Heading down to the seashore, he noticed a large and gorgeous yacht docked. It was a marvelous yacht, the perfect venue for large parties with friends. “Wow Dad!” the son exclaimed. “If only I would have treated my father better… I wonder what my younger brothers will get…” And with that, the son boarded the yacht and began sailing.
Bringing close his second son, the father repeated the same message as he did to his older son, after which he pointed to the sailboat awaiting. The son gasped in astonishment seeing what his father provided him for free, and kindly thanked him for his largess. Yet he could not help but wonder what his younger brother would receive.
Alas, the youngest brother approached his father, a smile extending across his face. Upon hearing the message regarding the treasure trove, the son returned his father a big hug and appreciative thank you. The youngest son proceeded to make his way to the seashore, anticipating a beautiful boat arranged to carry him to the mainland. Yet he was startled to see a simple kayak with one seat. “My two brothers have first-class boats and I have a tiny boat with a little paddle?” he wondered. But he didn’t question his father and instead settled himself inside and began to row.
His brothers could not help but laugh at the sore predicament of their younger brother, who was supposedly the most beloved to their father. “This is what our father gave him?” they both cackled. “We are so much better off!” The excoriating heat only caused the youngest brother to break out in a profuse sweat and form blisters on his hands, as his other brothers circled around and caused waves to capsize his little kayak again and again.
The youngest brother was at a loss to understand why he was given the weakest and worst of all boats. “Father, why did you do this to me? You gave my eldest brother a gorgeous yacht and my other brother a fantastic sailboat, and to me you gave a mere kayak?” But the youngest brother loved his father and could not part ways with the certainty that he meant well and had his best interests in mind. And so, despite the travails experienced, he continued rowing and rowing.
The next morning, as the youngest brother awoke sprawled out on the kayak, he heard cries reminiscent of a familiar sound. Rubbing his eyes, he looked up and saw his eldest brother just feet away, motioning for help. “Could you do me a favor? I didn’t realize, but there was only a small amount of gas left in the tank and we ran out. Would I be able to join you in going to the mainland?” “I wish I could help you,” replied the youngest brother, “but there is only room for one.”
The youngest brother continued along, until he came across another familiar face. “Help!” came the frantic call. It was the other brother with the sailboat. “I’m stuck!” he cried out. “There is no wind and I can’t move anywhere! Can I join you?”
And then, finally, the youngest brother understood. His father was indeed wise and gave him the best boat of them all. And that was because it was powered by none other than himself. Not gas, not wind, but himself. With that being the case, no matter the circumstances he would find himself, he would have the tools to be successful and make it to his destination. The other boats may have looked much bigger and the brothers much happier, but that wouldn’t last long. What would meet the greatest success was his own little kayak.
And so, if you ever wonder, what is the match which will light up our candle? It is ourselves. It is we who power forward and paddle on and on, despite our broken spirits and painful blisters, that will herald the final redemption. Hashem has provided us the means to achieve – the “candle and the kayak”; all we are asked to do is strike the match and push ahead with our paddle. For when we do so, we will surely one day reach the mainland of Jerusalem and find awaiting us the most precious treasure of all, the Third Beis Hamikdash.
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